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If you react this way, as her mother, the conflict is inevitable. Mariyam is getting nowhere with her homework assignments and, on top of it, she finds herself faced with your reproaches. She feels misunderstood, whereas you will probably resent her negative attitude and reluctance. This conflict could be avoided if you would attempt to counter Mariyam’s anger with “open communication“. Read more about open communication here.

How can we ”open up” our communication?

First: Show your child what you have understood or gleaned from her message. Refrain from interpreting her manner of speaking and acting. Just provide feedback about what you have heard or seen.

Second: You must make an effort to openly communicate your own feelings, thoughts, wishes and needs. Be careful, do not express them in an implicit way.

Third: Allow sufficient time for dialogs and communication in general, thus demonstrating to your child: ”You are important to me. I am interested in you, your thoughts, emotions, your life.” This fosters a deep feeling of acceptance and supports your child’s self-confidence.